My spouse talks to me like I am nothing and he tells his family bad things about me?

He talks about me and to me like I am garbage. Yesterday, he totally abused my feelings several times, and when I confronted him, asking if he had deliberately been playing head games, like his family does (he invigorates them with stories. I've met these people only a handful of times, yet they hate me because of the crap he tells them, so they screw with me all the time), he repeated it to his mother. He says, "Now you guys are playing head games." not realizing he hadn't hung up. I am so tired of being abused by these people. They are so abusive, gossipping about me, putting me down, interfering in our relationship, and judging me, accusing me of keeping him from them, when I have been telling him to go more often. He goes over there and infuriates them constantly with his stories. It's keeping them from accepting me. 7 years guys. 7 freaking years I devote to this man and he talks to me like I am a complete waste of time. If I ask him something, he says, (really rudely) DON'T start that! and he whines when he says it like I am some idiot bothering him. I love him. I know he loves me, but why is he so mean?